This was on my 21st birthday.
It was my mother who did it, I invited my (divorced but in a relationship) parents to my birthday dinner and they wanted to hang out with me and my friends afterwards, so we headed up to a bar where I would spend a lot of time in.
One of my guests was the daughter of my dad’s ex-girlfriend, so my mom went on bullying the girl the whole night and unfortunately I didn’t notice because there were a lot of guests and I assumed that she would behave. I lived with my dad but I was going to spend the night at my mom’s house with her, and when we got home her narcissistic traits came bubbling as she said that I invited the girl to provoke her, going on how much better she looked than both of us and how ridiculous I was.
She had been smoking pot and drinking, eventually, she told me something that triggered me to say something in response so she cornered me against the wall and banged her head on my nose. There’s a lot of backstories and there are other aggressions as well, but that’s WAY too much to put on one answer lol.
But basically this was the night when I got a broken nose and some insight on how abuse affected my life, so I no longer fear my parents or any other abusive person, and I no longer act out on rage because I know why I’m so hurt and angry all the time. The abuse made my dating standards low and I’ve had a lot of terrible relationships.
Now that I’m with someone who treats me well, I’m on my way to heal my wounds, we have our own place and it’s a great relief to live peacefully.
Here’s me and my boyfriend, 200% happier, fatter and with no more tears or abuse marks. My past demons sometimes torment me but I’m still 23 so I believe in me and I know I’m going to move on.
l still hang out with my family, and I think they cherish the moments we talk and see each other a lot more than before, probably because they realise that I’m better off and I could easily cut them off completely because of what they’ve done. But they’ve been helpful and kind of supportive so we are all good now.
I have forgiven, but I will never forget.